Having your children be involved with the upkeep of your home teaches them valuable lessons and independence. As your children get older, you might request them to do some chores around the house, other than cleaning their own room. Many parents will contemplate whether children should be rewarded or paid for the household chores. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer.
There are always pros and cons when giving an allowance to a child. Some parents will argue that children should be rewarded for their chores; others claim that helping around the house is expected of every family member. Whichever side you agree with, the point of an allowance is to teach your children money management skills, and the point of chores is to teach life skills for when they move out. We’ll dive further into the pros and cons of linking money to chores and also top tips on alternative ways to reward your kids for doing chores.
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There are many benefits to teaching your children to do household chores and eventually giving them individual tasks to help around the house. Here are some of the top reasons:
Motivating your children to do their chores can be an exhausting task, but here are some essential tips on getting your kids to do chores with minimum objections:
Many parents will wrestle with the question of whether they should pay their children to do household chores. The experts will argue that linking money to chores may have an adverse effect.
If you choose the earn-money-for-chores option, your child will see a direct connection between effort and money. And if chores are not completed, then there will be no allowance.
Alfie Kohn, who wrote Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason, said that "the more that people are rewarded for doing something, the more likely they are to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward." Various other studies also claim that children will feel more like contributing family members if they don't receive payment for doing chores.
Many parents adopt the hybrid method. This is when children are expected to be contributing family members, but they can earn additional allowance when tackling larger chores.
If your child is receiving an allowance, it will usually not be tied to their household chores when adopting the hybrid method. Allowing them to make a little extra for doing larger tasks could give them an entrepreneurial outlook, as they will need to negotiate how much they think they should earn for each task.
There are some parents who do not want to link money to chores; but wish to reward their children as an incentive. We have listed some great alternative reward options below: