HOW TO IMPLEMENT RULES AROUND SCREEN TIME FOR KIDS AND TEENS: Do It Together!
You set the tone for screen habits in your family—your kids are watching how you use your devices just as closely as you watch them. The truth is, screens affect adults and children in similar ways, but there’s one big difference: you remember life before the internet, with all its upsides and pitfalls. Use that perspective to your advantage by modeling mindful tech use. Be intentional: use one device at a time, and narrate your screen activity to your kids—don’t just say “I’m working” or “I’m on my phone,” but explain what you’re doing. When you finish your work or personal screen time, make a point to give your children your full, undivided attention.
Here are some ways to create a healthier digital environment at home:
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Set Clear Rules & Boundaries: Routines help kids feel safe, especially when the world outside feels unpredictable. Establish non-negotiable times for no screens—like before bed or school, when calm and focus matter most. Keep screens off the table during meals to encourage conversation and connection. Try leaving phones in another room during charging or at set times to help everyone unplug together. Avoid using screen time as a reward; instead, make it a regular, conscious part of the day so it’s easier to manage and benefit from.
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Differentiate Types of Screen Time: Not all screen time is created equal. School work or educational activities shouldn’t count against your child’s daily limit, just as your work emails don’t count against yours. Recognize the difference between active, purposeful use (like learning or video chatting with family) and passive scrolling or gaming.
Remember, every family is different, and it’s normal to encounter challenges, especially when your child’s friends may have different screen rules. Sharing real-life stories and keeping an open dialogue can help you navigate these differences and find what works best for your household. Screen time isn’t just a parenting issue—it’s a societal one, shaping how we connect, learn, and grow. So, talk openly with your kids about technology, but also make time to put your phone down and connect with other adults—and yourself—offline.